Core values test
Personality is how you act. Values are why. Find out which of six life values drive your choices and how they line up with the people closest to you.
The six values
- Security
- Stability, predictability and safety for you and your family.
- Freedom
- Making your own choices and doing things your way.
- Achievement
- Excelling, setting goals and being recognised for your work.
- Connection
- Family and close friends come first.
- Enjoyment
- Living fully now: fun, new experiences, good times.
- Meaning
- Making a difference beyond yourself.
Why values matter in relationships
Couples rarely split up over who loads the dishwasher. They struggle when deeper priorities pull in different directions: one wants to save for a house (security) while the other wants a year abroad (freedom and enjoyment). Talking about values gives you a shared language for these decisions before they become fights.
How to read your result
The chart ranks all six values. Pay most attention to your top two and your bottom one. When you compare, shared top values are a strong foundation, and a value that is top for one person but bottom for the other deserves an open conversation.
The questions are original to TraitMix and draw on long-standing ideas in values research about universal human motivations.
Frequently asked questions
Do values change over time?
Yes, especially around life events like starting a career, having children or retiring. Retake the test every year or two.
What if our top values conflict?
It is common and workable. Look for plans that honour both, like a secure budget that still sets aside money for travel.
Is any value better than another?
No. Each value has benefits and blind spots.
Result types in this test
Security
Values stability, safety and a predictable life.
Freedom
Values independence, choice and room to explore.
Achievement
Values goals, growth and visible success.
Connection
Values close relationships, belonging and care.
Enjoyment
Values pleasure, fun and enjoying the present.
Meaning
Values purpose, ideals and making a difference.
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